I'm Ok, You're Ok: A Practical Approach to Human Psychology

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It's highly addictive to get core insights on personally relevant topics without repetition or triviality. Once we feel that we are not OK in a world of OK people, that’s when we play games, says the author. Harris answers this through a simplified introduction to TA, explaining Berne's proposal that there are three states into which a person can switch: the Parent, the Adult and the Child. However, there were a couple of brief references to homosexuality in this book that might understandably confuse and bother a reader.

Even if you’ve sworn never to behave like your mother or father, chances are you’ll eventually catch yourself doing exactly that. This was first discovered in 1951 by the Montreal brain surgeon Wilder Penfield, who stimulated certain parts of his patients’ brains with an electrode. After the phenomenal success of Berne’s Games People Play in 1964, Harris published I’m OK – You’re OK in 1969, his guide to Transactional Analysis based upon the work of Dr. We can only separate the past from the present by using the Adult, which can learn to identify the recordings of the Child with its archaic fears and the recordings of the Parent with its disturbing replay of a past reality.The title was borrowed from the Ok-positions and reflects a fundamental position of the Transactional Analysis.

Harris did not sugarcoat racism in families, so his stark examples of racism in some vignettes might be unsettling to some readers. This book was written before 1973 when the American Psychiatric Association officially removed homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses. Since the book is now 40 years old and the Transactional Analysis is constantly being further developed, up-to-date literature is more appropriate. In this essay, the author argues that the “golden age” of self help books, as initiated by Eric Berne in Games People Play and continued by Thomas Harris in I’m OK – You’re OK is now over. It has given hope to people who have become discouraged by the vagueness of many of the traditional types of psychotherapy.The subject feels again the emotion which the situation originally produced in him, and he is aware of the same interpretations, true or false, which he himself gave to the experience in the first place. Despite the numerous literary accomplishments of Games, Harris felt that he could simplify Berne’s theories even more and make them more accessible to a wider audience.

After describing the context for his belief of the significance of TA, Harris describes TA, starting from the observation that a person's psychological state seems to change in response to different situations. Continual outpourings of psychological literature, whether printed in psychiatric journals or the Reader’s Digest, have increased this expectancy yearly, but the chasm between this and cure seems to have widened.Happy childhood” notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the not ok feelings of a defenseless child wholly dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. Used books have different signs of use and might not include supplemental materials such as CDs, Dvds, Access Codes, charts or any other extra material.

In the first episode of the fifth season of What We Do in the Shadows, the character Nandor talks about working through his anger issues with the book. I'm Ok, You're Ok - The Graphic Model (Four Life Positions)Transactional Analysis - I'm ok, you're ok: Just as there are the schools of thought of psychoanalysis, systemic psychology or behavioral psychology, Transactional Analysis is also a separate field.

If the child very early thinks “I’m not OK”, he also concludes that his parent, the big provider of all his life needs, must be OK. When parents are dominated by their children, they can end up into struggles with their own children. In particular, he asks, if people are not to succumb to domination by the Parent ego state, how can individuals enlightened through TA know how they should live their lives?